Jobs, Jobs, Jobs

Recently I received a letter from a distant family member, updating us on how everybody is doing. The predominant word in her letter was "job". She told us about her job and that of her husband, about her children's jobs and their respective spouses' jobs, stating that they were all reasonably happy with their jobs although they all spent a lot of time on their jobs and also complained about their jobs from time to time. Not a word about children among the newly weds of the family, and hardly anything about anything else anyone is doing. Needless to say that all of them are working outside the home, not one home maker among the lot.

So here is why I am telling you all this:
Have you ever considered that working outside the home is slavery, or at best, indentured servitude ? And for a married woman, it means that she puts herself under the authority of people other than her husband, most times under the authority of another man, their employer.

Have you ever considered that the economic activities of a diligent home maker easily equal the amout of money many women earn in their jobs outside the home ? So while many women go out to earn the money that allows them to buy convenience food that is unhealthy and doesn't taste as good as home made cooking, while they are out there earning the money to buy produce they don't grow, clothing they don't sew, and pay a handyman for all the small repairs nobody has time to do around the house, to name but a few examples, the home maker runs her house neatly and nicely like a well oiled machine and sees to it that her husband has no need of spoil, and that her family is happy and healthy, that her children are well cared for and well educated.

Now, think again, and imagine not one woman running the house, but several women running their common husband's house - can you imagine how much work you can get done without getting all stressed out ? How much food you can grow ? How many children you can raise and hoem school ? How much clothign you can sew ? How many cans of beans you can can, and pies you can bake, and bars of soap you can make, etc etc etc ... I could go on forever !

Well, I prefer this life in the multi-generational, polygynous family over the rat race so many people deliberately involve themselves in every day... What is your opinion on the matter, esteemed reader of this post ?

A Word About Home Schooling

Yes, I know this is a well discussed topic, but let me add a a few word from the plural marriage family perspective.

It is well known that there is nothing natural about sticking a bunch of kids of the same age into a classroom for half the day every day and let them educate each other, basically. School has it wrong, and we all know it. Peer pressure abounds, children are under bad influences... A more artificial environment is difficult to imagine.

Then again, if you are living in a monogamous marriage and home school, your children are taught with only a few "classmates", even if you have 8, 9, 10 children. Imagine, however, the multi-generational family with lots and lots of children of all ages, who grow up together, who learn together, and who have more than one teacher as all the adults of the multi-generational and polygynous family have a share in the home schooling of the young ones. Grandpa might teach the boys woodwork, grandma will show the girls how to knit, alongside a classical educational and the inevitable gardening lessons, of course, Father reads Scripture after dinner and teaches the children how to discern properly, and and and...

Home schooling takes place all day long and no matter who the children are with. The multi-generational, polynynous family is the ideal place for a child to grow up and learn, ideal because every child will have many siblings to be best friends with, and there are many adults around to teach the young ones what they need to live a happy life by God's standard.

Protection in Bad Times

Another thing I mentioned in my list the other day was that, in a polygynous family, you would be protected in bad times.

Now, if you look out the window - and I don't mean literally just yet, although things might very well turn bad enough that literally looking out the window will show you just how bad things have got - you can see that the economy is all but collapsed, people are losing their jobs, businesses are closing... Soon we will see once respectable citizens digging through other people's garbage cans for food, and that will be the least dangerous sight on our streets.

Would it not be comfortable to know, then, that even in times like this, you are living in a community that is both strong and healthy enough to protect all its members from bad influences in any form or fashion ? And that this community you are living in is held together by the strongest bond imaginable - blood ? This community is your family, if you are living in a multi-generational and polygynous family.... Think about it !, and leave a comment if you so desire.

The Multi-Generational Vision

Today let me say a few words about our multi-generational vision for the family.

Maybe you noticed, in my little list I posted yesterday, that I talked about you in your old age as well. This has a simple reason: What God has joined in marriage, we are not to put asunder, and so we plan on all of us living on our "family compound" until we die. If God is merciful and grants us a big family and many children, we will hopefully see our grandchildren and great-grandchildren grow up on the "compound", which basically means that our children will stay on the family land when they are married, build their house next to ours, and so will their children, and so on.

The idea is that the very young as well as the very old, and all ages in between, have a place in the family where they can live a fulfilled life, and do meaningful work appropriate for their age and abilities. The young add strength and fresh ideas to the family endeavor, the elderly their experience and wisdom. Everybody can benefit from the presence of the other, all the joys and all the burdens are shared... In short, the multi-generational, plural family has the potential to provide everything for the family that now is provided by the state, from schooling to taking care of the elderly, from health services to food supply.

Ideally, the multi-generational polygynous family is independent from society and can rely on its own members to provide whatever is needed by itself. Why is self sufficiency our goal, you ask ? The reason is simple: Society is largely ungodly and prevents us from living according to God's Law Word wherever it can, so that we may serve the state. But that, to us, is compulsion, because the state ignores and violates God's Law Word in any number of ways as is its own god and its own law giver. Since we follow God's guidelines alone, separation from the world, and hence self-sufficiency, are crucial.

10 Reasons for Polygyny

Dear Sister-to-Be,

I was thinking it might be fun to list 10 reasons why living in a polygynous family is a great idea. There are many many more reasons than just 10, but I think a list of 10 is a good thing for a start. I am not listing things in a particular order, just as they come to mind:

1. You are living in a big family with your best friends always around, and a lot of support for your life style from other adults.
2. You have a lot of children around, your own and those of your sister wives.
3. The work in house and garden is distributed evenly amongst the adults of the family.
4. You, as a part of the family, can live self sufficiently on the family's own land, and so can your children.
5. You are well protected in bad times, and in good company at all times.
6. You can home school your children together with other children of the household.
7. You will not have to go to a nursery home when you are old, but will be well cared for all the days of your life.
8. You can eat wholesome food that the family grew itself.
9. You can stay home with your children and don't have to sell yourself to an employer.
10. Your children have plenty of other children to grow up with, who are all raised according to the same standard.

Questions, comments ? Please do to hesitate to say what you have to say.

Children are a blessing !

Here is another aspect that is essential to the Christian family, monogamous or polygamous - children ! We love children, we love our children, and we would hope that God has lots of siblings for them still in store. If you love children too, you are right here.

Of course we home school, as the bible commands the parents to take the education of their children into their own hands and teach them morning, noon and night. Generally speaking, we follow the guidelines of classical education for our children, and living in the countryside provides a wealth of home schooling topics, too, just as the many economic activities that take place inside the house do.

If you wish to know more, please do not hesitate to comment.

Country Living

Now that we told you about the biblical foundation of our plural marriage family, let me sketch briefly where and how we plan on living:

We believe that, in order to take dominion as God said we should, living in the country side is essential. In order to be good stewards of the earth as well as our temple, we need to be living close to God's creation, work with our own hands and mind our own business, expecting others to do the same - mind their own business.

So growing our own food is essential as much as building a homestead where generations can live. Home should be a place where the family lived for generations, the land will know the family, and if we keep the Sabbaths of the land, and all His commandments, God will see to it that it will be well with us, our children, and their children after them.

So if you join us, you can look forward to a lot of time spent outside in the garden and yard, a lot of fresh produce to eat and fresh air to breathe, and meaningful work for everyone in the family. Interested ? Don't hesitate to write a comment :)

The Foundation

Hi everybody, it's Talitha again.

Today I wish to tell you a little bit about the foundation of our family dream, that is, the conviction that God meant marriage to be a bond forever, between man and woman. Marriage is a holy institution, and the marriage covenant is not to be violated by either the husband or the wife.

Now, we also see in the bible that this bond of marriage may be between one man and one woman just as well as between one man and several women, and we also see that it is NOT meant to be between one woman and several men, or between woman and woman, or man and man.

It is our conviction that God gave us plural marriage, or polygyny, as a tool of dominion, in order to raise godly children that are loyal to Him, and in order to raise up a multi-generational household that can stand strong against the enemy and survive even in difficult times, relying on God's Law Word for guidance.

This is what we are working towards, joyfully and with great zeal. Questions ? Write a comment and ask :)

Welcome, Sisters

This blog has a very specific purpose, and I am hopeful that many sisters will find it soon.

My name is Talitha, and I am looking for a sister wife to join our family... I will blog about our family here, who we are, what is important to us, what you can expect when you join us, and if I find interesting news, I will blog those too.

For now - Grace and Peace,
Talitha

"Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path." (Psa 119:105)